Another nice email i read.. credits to 'Eugene Loh, A Slice of Life'
Read it n think about abit k.. here goes..
Staying Empowered During Stressful Times
It happens to the best of us. No matter how adept we become in handling difficulties, solving problems, and staying optimistic, there will be times when the once brightly-lit road becomes foggy. We can't perform at 100% 100% of the time. Sometimes we trip, and occasionally, the mistake can feel so severe that it gives our previously rock-solid confidence a resounding crack. So what do we do when we start to feel lost? How can we remain empowered and positive through stressful times?
Well, firstly, many people think that asking for help or guidance is a sign of weakness. It's needy, they feel, something that the truly capable will never request, even though they may really need the support. This is a mistaken view. The giving of help need not be a simple handout. When we give, we also receive. And if we are open to the gift of help, we may yet gain the strength that we can use to help others in future. You don't have to be the victim in need of charity. Make it a partnership; something that benefits all parties involved either immediately or in the future.
When our confidence takes a beating, we may feel like withdrawing from society, from the communities in which we used to participate. But this simply strains your self-worth even more. So, even if you're in a particularly stressful state, continue to tap into any groups of people with whom you have positive, interactive relationships on an ongoing basis. Sometimes, when everybody expects you to shrivel and disappear, simply showing up will be enough to give you and your community that much-needed boost.
During nerve-racking times, it's also important that you remain real and true to yourself. It's easy to feel as though you've become half the person you used to be. But staying positive and re-connecting with your passions and life purpose will help a great deal. Stay centred and self-respecting, but be careful not to overdo it as to appear arrogant or delusional.
When we're at our lowest ebb, when we're feeling so deflated that we think we cannot possibly have anything more to give? we can very often surprise ourselves. Mountaineers, long-distance runners, and other endurance sportspeople know that even if it feels as if we have only one remaining breath, if that breath is spent giving ourselves one final push, we can often achieve the seemingly insurmountable. So give of yourself. Do what you can to still help others. The joy of giving from the heart may just be enough to bridge that gap between stress and joy, and give you a whole new positive direction.
And remember to always turn towards love. Grow towards greatness. At the end of the day, there are only two choices - love or fear. If you can love without fear, you will never be beaten. can use to help others in future. You don't have to be the victim in need of charity. Make it a partnership; something that benefits all parties involved either immediately or in the future.
When our confidence takes a beating, we may feel like withdrawing from society, from the communities in which we used to participate. But this simply strains your self-worth even more. So, even if you're in a particularly stressful state, continue to tap into any groups of people with whom you have positive, interactive relationships on an ongoing basis. Sometimes, when everybody expects you to shrivel and disappear, simply showing up will be enough to give you and your community that much-needed boost.
During nerve-racking times, it's also important that you remain real and true to yourself. It's easy to feel as though you've become half the person you used to be. But staying positive and re-connecting with your passions and life purpose will help a great deal. Stay centred and self-respecting, but be careful not to overdo it as to appear arrogant or delusional.
When we're at our lowest ebb, when we're feeling so deflated that we think we cannot possibly have anything more to give? we can very often surprise ourselves. Mountaineers, long-distance runners, and other endurance sportspeople know that even if it feels as if we have only one remaining breath, if that breath is spent giving ourselves one final push, we can often achieve the seemingly insurmountable. So give of yourself. Do what you can to still help others. The joy of giving from the heart may just be enough to bridge that gap between stress and joy, and give you a whole new positive direction.
And remember to always turn towards love. Grow towards greatness. At the end of the day, there are only two choices - love or fear. If you can love without fear, you will never be beaten.
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i stumbled across this article when im looking thru the wedding speeches for reference.. this is like the ultimate romantic thing a husband can say at the wedding.. i will kill myself just to have a wedding with a speech like tt made by my husband.. here goes...
My Best Friend's Wedding Speech
Published by Ng Chin Leng, with permission from Tan Boon Gin1 September, 2000
Distinguished guests, ladies and gentlemen.
Thank you for gracing this occasion with your presence here today. It really means a lot to us to have so many family and friends come and give us your congratulations and your blessings. We are really touched and honoured. Thank you again for coming.
I would like to take this opportunity to say a few words to just some of you who have made a difference in my life.
My old friends, Chin Leng, Kevin, Gerald, Jeremy, Yee Siang and Daniel. Each one of you entered my life at just the right time, so that at every point in my life, from childhood to university, I managed to find that one good friend to hang out with, to pour out my soul to and to lean on. You guys are the best friends a boy and a man could ever have.
To Cheng, Michelle, Leigh, Sam and Pam, Val's friends and bridesmaids. Thank you for contributing so much to this wedding, and thank you as well, for being my friends and not just knowing me as Val's other half.
To my Aunty Wah Wan and my Uncle Chang Choon, thank you for your love, care and encouragement, especially when I had the accident with my eyes just before my A levels.
To my mum,I have always relied on your strength of character, your faith and your goodness and I will always cherish the times we spent together, especially when I was a little kid, and you tried to be the brother and sister to me that I never had.
To my dad,who through the many little things that he does, and thinks that I do not notice, but I do, shows that underneath that gruff exterior is a man who loves me dearly.
And to you both, thank you for showing me by example and through your love what it takes to make a good marriage and be good parents.
To Val's parentsThank you for bringing up such an amazing woman.I love your daughter and I will do everything in my power to live up to your hopes and dreams for her.
And to you Valerie, thank you for loving me as you do, unconditionally, despite knowing me through and through, thank you Val for saying Yes and agreeing to spend your life with me. I am without doubt the luckiest man in the world.
People ask me all the timeHow do you know that Valerie's the one for you? How do you know?
Well, for me the answer is that it's a gradual process of different degrees of illumination over time.
I first thought that maybe she was the one when I saw her one day in the NUS canteen and her hair was tied up with a maroon hairband and she smiled, and it took my breath away.
I first thought that she quite possibly was the one when she brought me to the wake of the mother of this old clerk who worked in her office, and there was no one else there so she sat down and talked to this old man for an hour and I saw the compassion in her face.
I first thought that she was very likely to be the one when I was going through a period when everything I did seemed to go wrong and she told me that the only thing that I ever needed to do right was to love her.
I first thought that she was probably the one when once she was feeling down and I did something to surprise her and when she threw her arms around me I realised that her happiness meant more to me than anything else in this world.
And I knew for sure that she was the one when in the middle of proposing to her I suddenly lost confidence and I asked in a moment of self doubt could you marry me instead of will you marry me and she took me by my shoulders, looked me squarely in the eyes and said in a clear firm voice, I will.
And that ladies and gentlemen, is how I knew then and how I know now. Thank you.
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