saw this link http://www.paulgoldinresearch.com/cg/ on siuyuin's blog.. so i went to do it.. its quite true leh... freaky... ok.. here goes:
At this time you are really feeling quite exhausted by all the conflict and quarrelling that is going on about you and you are looking for some sort of protection from this state of affairs. Ideally you are seeking a peaceful condition and a tranquil environment in which you can be afforded the chance to relax and recover......You are a leader and possibly at this tine in a position of authority, but you are experiencing problems. You are not quite sure how to handle the present situation.In spite of all the opposition, you are insisting that your goals are realistic but circumstances are forcing you to compromise. You are not very happy with this situation but there is little that you can do about it. You have very strict standards which you try to apply to everyone who enters your sphere of influence.For whatever the reason, you find it extremely difficult to sustain relationships - that is to sustain them in the manner that you would wish. You are a very gentle sort of person, full of feeling, sensitivity and susceptible to love and affection, looking and longing for a partner with whom you can enjoy 'All things bright and beautiful' - someone with whom you can seek out the more esoteric things of life. But up to now this person has only existed in your imagination. You are very choosy, appreciative, refined and extremely artistic in temperament and it is your hope to seek others who will allow you to form and express your own taste and judgement and who at the same time may assist you in your intellectual or artistic growth.In the past your trusting attitude has often been misunderstood and so you have needed to protect yourself against your tendency to be abused and taken advantage of. As a consequence you possibly adopt an aloof and critical attitude and you are only willing to let your guard down once sincerity and trustworthiness can be assured
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8:28 PM
okie.. as seen on the tag board.. i've been tagged by jieqi.. so im answerin it..
These are the rules: Each player of this game starts out by giving 6 weird things about themselves. People who get tagged need to write in a blog of their own 6 weird things as well as state the rules clearly. In the end, you need to choose 6 people to be tagged and list their names. After you do that, leave them each a comment letting them know you tagged them and to read your blog!
ok.. here goes.. 6 wierd things abt myself:
1. i really eat quite a bit.. small meals but many times a day.. n i snack a lot.. so wad's wierd rite.. as u all noe.. i hardly put on any weight..
2. though im a small eater.. i can eat a lot when im havin steamboat.. will be the first at the table.. n last to finish..
3. i alwiz think abt wad happens after pple are dead.. n i keep remindin myself tt i must tell mu children or family next time thru their dreams wad exactly happens after i die..
4. i can be rowdy only when im in a group.. when im alone.. im like duper quiet.. i alwiz dunno wad to say.. im quite shy i guess..
5. my tolerance level of pain is -100. ask my family.. its wierd coz i reallie cant even stand a little bit of pain..
6. i love to wear heels even when im 1.72m.. haaaaa.. box meee...
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anywae.. juz a little bit abt siuyuin's n kok meng's house.. went there on saturdae to help though was feelin a bit sick..mopped the floor.. wa kao.. reallie quite tiring.. but im happy i went coz we helped clean the house n bought the last of the furnitures at ikea... the tampines ikea is reaaaaaaaaaal big.. haha... n i love javier's room colour.. it's blueeeeeeee
n i muz have been a damn retard.. i started talkin to baby javier alreadie.. hope he recognises my voice when he is born!! im godma sherlyn my dear boy!
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11:12 PM
it's been a long time since i reallie blogged.. let's see if i lost touch..
next monday is the 49th day of my grandma's death.. i dunno if i shld sae time flies.. but feels like everything is happenin so quickly.. its kinda like its flashin past.. nuthin reallie sinks in the mind yet..
too much happenin in too short a period of time.. hopes that this will be a good year doenst seem so bright.. my bleak life.. but thru the rough times.. i do hope some rays of light can shine in between.. hope the nail spa business can be good after the official opening.. hope i can go for the diamond class.. hope daddy's blood pressure goes down back to normal.. hope brother can go to thailand to work as planned.. hope tt nuthin goes wrong anymore..
blame it on my bad luck maybe.. the trip to hkg wasnt very good.. compared to the september fair.. boss was reallie gettin on my nerves.. his endless complaints make himself seem greedy n ungrateful.. n puttin like everything on me (or maybe i put it on myself) is juz not fair.. he doesnt understand tt the fair is a trade show n not a pasar malam to lelong his goods.. well.. wad can i sae.. he is the boss.. anywae.. i've already told anne tt i dun wan to go to the september fair as long as the boss is goin.. hehe.. n she already like communicated with the boss that i shldnt go.. hopefully all goes well.. *keep my fingers cross*.. dun tink juz coz the company send me to hkg den im lucky.. try goin with my boss.. no amt of fun at the fair can make up to the mental torture tt i suffer from him!!
alrite.. enuff bout tt.. den as i mentioned.. jac fell sick there n got hospitalised.. she vomitted non stop.. yucks.. n her face was green..wahahah... =X.. but after restin for 2 daes.. we still brought her to disneyland.. didnt want to waste her one n only trip to hkg.. she will nv go anywhere on the airplane again.. haha..
after returnin to singapore.. started feelin very tired.. n have this horrible backache.. maybe im dyin.. but ya.. but im still back at work todae (on sick leave yesterdae).. n found a cute cow piggy bank on my table!! anne bought a damn cute moooooo bank for me.. n it literally goes moooooo when i insert coins!! its totally cuteeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee!! MOOOOOOOOO.. heee
oh ya.. n over the weekends.. the whole entire family (meanin including my uncles n aunties) went down to spring court for dinner as it was like the official ceremony to acknowledge my godma godpa.. n for my godma to acknowledge my grandma as godma.. so i had to poor tea for my godparents.. nv did call my godpa "kai ye" until sunday.. i was reallie a bit shy.. haha.. alwiz only called my kai ma.. n they bought me this heart shape diamond pendant.. its reallie pretty! n im wearin it now.. so dainty... juz like me.. *cough cough*...
ok.. since its lunch time n im hungry.. i shall decide if i wan go da bao lunch soon.. till i blog again.. please take care EVERYONE..
p.s. salmaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa!!! let's meet up soon.. with everyone else! =D
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11:44 AM
saw this email this morning... it struck me that some of my friends may see some light from this article.. enjoy..
[pls note that this article is written, produced and presented by Eugene Loh. If you wish to share the scripts with others, please credit it to 'Eugene Loh, A Slice of Life, 938LIVE, a station of MediaCorp Radio']
Three Principles for Fulfilling Relationships
There are three principles that we should understand well before committing to any romantic relationship. If you're already in a relationship, studying these principles intimately and practicing them will help ensure a lasting, satisfying relationship.
Unrealistic expectations are usually what drive a couple apart, so the first principle to understand is that your partner does not owe you your happiness. This may sound strange because why else would we want to enter relationships if not to find happiness?
Sure, we should derive joy from our relationships but our partner should not bear the duty of giving us joy. Joy should be the spontaneous consequence of two people sharing feelings of love for each other, not the result of one party constantly striving to fulfill the other's needs. When we expect our partner to make us happy, we set up opportunities for failure, and each time our partner fails to meet our demands, we lose respect and affection for him or her. Besides, love doesn't mean consistently giving in to our demands. And love doesn't mean always making us happy. What gives our joy may not always be in our best interests. And love can sometimes mean hardship and pain.
The second principle for fulfilling relationships is to love your partner for who they are. Don't love a fantasy version of them you hope will emerge in the future. Many people enter a relationship thinking that in time, their partners will change, but this often doesn't happen. Your partner entered the relationship believing that this is what you fell in love with. He or she doesn't see any reason to change.
Loving your partner for who they are also means accepting their flaws, or what you deem to be flaws. Each person has attractive qualities as well as some habits or characteristics we may not find so beguiling. But we should love our partners in spite of the qualities we don't appreciate as much as the others. There is no perfect lover, like there is no perfect gadget. You're always going to have to trade off certain features for other ones you find more suited to you. And when you run into conflict over those undesirable features, your love for the whole product should be more than enough to make you overlook the flaws and still embrace your partner. So ask yourself "If my partner upsets me, will I be able to look past the words and actions and still love the person?"
The third and final principle is to love and respect yourself as much as you love and respect your partner. This is because if you feel inadequate compared to your partner, you might become obsessed with fulfilling his or her needs and neglect your own. Over time, your partner will learn to take you for granted and you will no doubt begin to feel like you got the short end of the stick.
Maintaining fulfilling relationships is no easy job, but understanding and practising these three principles should help you a great deal.
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12:08 PM
hong kong sux... work was bad.. holidae was bad... my sister got warded in the hong kong hospital.. well.. wad more can i sae.. no time to blog now.. will come back again...
till then.. elaine.. please take good of urself.. there's reallie nuthin we can do.. the only one tt can help u is urself.. jiayou orh!
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