Turning Pain into Blessings (Part 1)
At times of emotional pain, do you often hear people telling you that the best thing to do is to get over it and move on? That in order to embrace the future, you have to bury the past?
Well, I'm sure it was well-meant advice, but moving forward from pain takes more than just forgetting and forgiving. Moving forward is learning from your pain, your mistakes and your past to create a better future. It's self-improvement, while moving on, is simply self-preservation.
Simply denying the pain will probably lead to the same mistakes being repeated, the same lies being told, the same cycle of hypocrisy and despair.
There are a few important things to remember if you truly want to move forward from your pain and create a better future.
First, accept that everything in the past happened for a purpose. You can emerge either defeated or stronger from every painful experience. We all have that choice. The person you are today is the result of your past experiences, and in those experiences, no matter how horrible, lies the key to you becoming a better person.
Great gifts do not shine forth brightly under the grime of pain, but they are there. Until you can seek out and embrace the gifts hidden in those times of despair, you'll never be able to fully let go of the negative emotions surrounding them. Suppressing the hurt, denying the pain, simply gives them more power.
Credit it to 'Eugene Loh, A Slice of Life, 938LIVE, a station of MediaCorp Radio'.
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hmmm.. just read elaine's blog.. she seems to be pretty upset.. hope everything is ok for her.. knowing her for abt a decade.. i can sae this is the first time i've "seen" her flare up.. wadever happened must have teriibly affected n upsetted her.. i just hope things can get better! elaine jiayou! like pple alwiz sae.. time heal all wounds.. even if it doesnt fully recover.. it probably gets better.. just stay positive k.. let us noe if u need anything.. =)
anywae.. met fiona (from my gem class) last nite for dinner.. we had dinner at the ship restaurant in shaw centre.. n im surprised at the food they served.. i ordered seafood spagetti.. n it was served with crab meat.. as in the red n white kind.. im kinda like.. huh? hahah.. nv knew they served crabmeat in restaurants though... after dinner went to visit leon too (the gem class teacher).. kinda miss my class man... but heard the gem class is more difficult.. anywae.. THANK YOU FIONA FOR THE DINNER!!
n for the first time in my life.. i felt tt i actuallie have frens tt are reallie reallie very different from me.. i would tink most of my frenz share at least the same opinions as me on certain issues.. well.. it's until now tt i realise pple are reallie all different n unique in a sense... hmmm...
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ok.. im cooked.. if anyone wants a taste of me.. pls juz drop me a msg.. u will let u take a bite.. im so burnt n in so much pain.. i officially hate the sun even more...
nv tot i will go sentosa in the dae.. but because of natalie.. my cute little niece.. i had to go to see her in her cute swimsuit.. resultin in myself being thoroughly burnt...
OUCHHHHHHHHH.. i cant ouch enuff...
p.s. huikie.. take good care of urself in beijing ya! sorrie tt we didnt send u off coz its reallie too early n im quite sure i cant wake up even if i set 10 alarms.. but i noe u will understand coz as usual im quite the spoilt brat in the group... heeee.. msg us in u need anything k!
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woooooooooooooooooo.. had a loooong weekend break..
27th April
went for dinner at vivo with tb28 gang.. i reallie have to salute them for their lateness.. they are alwayz late! my god.. the next meetin.. i will probably turn up an hour later.. n i may still be the earliest.. was jianhua's bdae.. n was celebratin yishan's belated bdae too.. had dinner at a steak place called hog's breath.. but end up oni jh had steak.. ahhaha.. we reallie dun noe how to appreciate good food...
went to cafe del mar at sentosa after tt.. i muz sae the place is over-rated.. didnt turn out to be as fantastic as i expected.. though it was a pretty nice place to juz chill n hang around.. but unless u had a car.. u hardly can get there.. of coz unless u have too much money to spend on takin cabs.. n even with a car.. u muz walk a long distance or take a shuttle bus to reach the location from the car parks.. how ma fan can it get rite.. but overall.. it wasnt tt bad.. the cocktail tt meiling had was reallie good.. if i ever go back there.. will have tt!! yummy!!
28th Apr
went to touch up my hair colour.. but i truly think i wasted my money coz hardly anyone realised tt.. sat for for abt one hour plus and started gettin restless.. m not the kind tt can sit still for long.. mummy alwiz saes i have needles on my butt.. hahaha...
went to meet siuyuin after tt as she had to leave her house because they were fixin the air con... went to jln pemimppin to get some maternity stuff.. n she bought a nice top.. but in a horrific orange colour.. (ok... i juz dun like orange.. not tt the top was ugly or wad).. after which.. headed down to thomson for some hakka food.. as sy wanted so badly to eat shuan pan zi.. wont want javier to salivate so much when he comes out will i.. haha.. but sadly.. the restaurant was closed.. haha.. n there was absolutely nothin nice to eat along the whole stretch of restos n shops.. but after some not so nice food.. we headed down to novena square.. n had indulgence in some ice cream!! it was pretty good as alwiz.. sy muz have been happy coz there's no one there to nag at her not to have cold food.. hahah.. went to ue square too.. where there r so many baby stuff.. god.. kids these days do have a very very good life i muz sae...
29th Apr
went shopping the whole dae n had steamboat.. but the xian de lai place at bugis wasnt tt fabulous.. still prefer my tian tian.. heeeee..
30th Apr
met jieqi and cindy in the mornin... went back to np and wanted to sit in mr tham's lecture.. but apparently.. he no longer gives lectures.. which is a pity coz he reallie is a good lecturer n tutor.. it will be a loss to np the dae he leaves.. but goin back to sch feels pretty fun.. though i guess we looked a tad too old to be students.. saw mr ong too.. but didnt have a chance to go talk to him.. oni waved.. n surprisingly.. the lab technician recognised me.. he looks quite shocked when he saw me.. n asked me if i've graduated.. ahaha.. muz have given him too many troubles with my laptop durin my sch daes..
we headed down to jurong point to watch 200 pounds beauty (my 2nd time).. n i still think it's good. i can probably watch it a hundred times.. though i still love my phantom most.. after the movie.. we went to sing ktv.. since we had no idea where else to go.. hahha..
n finally.. the highlight of the dae.. Labour of Love play by NTUC. i enjoyed myself perfectly as the songs were reallie nice.. n the cast was pretty good.. cindy didnt enjoy it much though.. she felt tt it was quite borin.. but lucky for me.. jieqi shared my same sentiments.. if not cindy will slaughter me! hahhaa... took a non air con 151 back from nus after tt.. i cant believe there still are single deck non air con buses... eeeekz...
1st May
watched 2 movies online.. seducing mr perfect n my little bride.. both were pretty nice.. n the guy in the first movie was sooooooooooooooo handsome.. i'll marry him! hahhaa...
went for buffet dinner at le meridien in the evenin.. very ex.. so i tot i muz eat my worth.. so i ate 1 oyster n some salmon.. i usually nv ever take raw food unless its veggies.. but i concluded tt oysters are reallie not very nice.. hmmm.. probably wont eat them again...
so that's how my looooong weekend ended.. but im lookin forward to more holidaeS!!!
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